#y'all i think i might be on the aromantic spectrum

[v-tired-queer]

Just got done with a sexuality crisis and now I'm having a romantic attraction crisis wtf

[swimming-fishes]

Y'all, I think I might be aromantic, and possibly on the asexual spectrum. I've struggled with gender before, but I've never really had a crisis about it. But when the idea of being aromantic popped into my head, I got really scared? I know QPRs exist and I've always been most fulfilled by my platonic and familial relationships, but I've always wanted to settle down with a partner and maybe have a family of my own someday, so being aro is scary to me. I know my goals are lossible without romance, but I'm having my first ACTUAL queer crisis! I'm recontextualizing my life in a way I never had to with my gender! It's scary!!

If anyone has advice or reassurance, that would be helpful lol. I don't know much about the aroace community but I would love to learn.

[normal-sea-urchin]

AROACE MUTANT MAYHEM MIKEY ONSHOT

lo and behold, i actually wrote a fic i said i would. this is fairly rushed and it might seem a bit ooc, but here y'all go, hope you enjoy

"Aro-huh?" Mikey asked. He was at the improv comedy club meeting, talking with a girl named Renet. She had clear, dark skin and black hair with electric blue highlights. She was wearing a white ascot around her neck, with a sparkly blue jumpsuit, which matched her blue eyes.

"Aroace. It's where you don't feel any romantic or sexual attraction." she explained. The two had gotten on the topic of being aroace when Mikey complimented her pride pin on her backpack and asked what the flag meant. 

"Hmm." Mikey hummed. Aroace, he thought to himself. "Cool." he responded. "So wait, does that mean that you don't date anybody?" 

"Well, I don't," Renet began, "but other aroace people might date. They might be curious, or they might be on the asexual or aromantic spectrums, they might be in a QPR. There's a bunch of different reasons why an aroace person might date someone." 

"Huh, rad!" Mikey exclaimed.

"Mikey! Renet! You're up!" the head of the club called.

                _______________________

Mikey laid in bed, staring at the ceiling of his bunk. His brothers had all fallen asleep a while ago. The term aroace had been bouncing around his head since Renet mentioned it earlier that day. Was he aroace? He couldn't really remember having any crushes on people when he was younger. But he also didn't really know anyone other than his brothers and father when they were younger. Come to think of it, what exactly did romantic love feel like?

Maybe he just hadn't found the right person yet. He didn't want to use the term aroace if he wasn't aroace. Maybe he would give it some time and see if he even caught feels for anyone at school. Yeah. He would do that. 

                _______________________

Not even five minutes passed and Mikey was on his phone, googling the term aroace. 

"Aromantic asexual people are colloquially known as "aro-ace" or "aroace". Aromantic individuals are also able to experience platonic love and may have committed friendships, and some form intimate non-romantic partnerships called "queerplatonic relationships"." it read. Hmm. Mikey rested his phone on his plastron and stared up at the ceiling, thinking for a moment. Aroace. Aroace. Hmm.

                _______________________

"Hey Renet!" Mikey had run into her the next day at school. Well not exactly "ran into". He was looking for her; and thus, he had found her rummaging through her locker. 

"Oh, hey Mikey! How's it hanging?" she responded, closing her locker and turning to face Mikey.

"Uhhh, so quick question." the turtle explained.

"What's up?" she smiled.

"Uh, so how did you know you were aroace?" he questioned.

"Oh, uh!" Her eyes widened with shock. God dammit, that wasn't an offensive question, was it? "Well I guess I realized it when I first heard about it a year ago. I had thought I was pan for a long time cause I didn't really have a preference or gender. But, as it would turn out, I didn't have a preference cause I didn't romantically like anyone."

"Hmm. Okay." he waited a moment before continuing. "I think I might be aroace." he admitted.

"Oh! For real?" he nodded. "That's so rad! Congrats on coming out dude!" she perked up. Mikey took a moment to process before responding.

"Uh, well I'm not sure if I'm aroace. So..." he trailed off, hanging his head down. Wow, Renet had really pretty shoes. Were those platform heels?

"Oh. Well you can use the term aroace if it makes you comfortable, if that's what you're worried about." she reassured. 

"Hmm," Mikey took a moment to think before smiling widely, tilting his head up to face Renet. "Yeah, I think I will. I'm aroace!" he declared proudly.

[norbezjones]

Happy Ace Week, everyone! I'm asexual and on the aromantic spectrum, and I made a game exploring that just a few months ago! You can check it out at the link above.

About the game:

Yancy is an aroace person who thinks they don't have a creative bone in their body.  But then the zombie apocalypse begins, and they realize they never pursued their dream of becoming a photographer.  So they pick up a camera as the world starts crumbling around them.

Go around Yancy's neighborhood, chat with friends at night, and try to hold it together as everything changes.  Who knows?  It might not turn out the way you think.

Featuring:

Daily photo ops & bonding experiences in the community

A high school reunion with plenty of ups & downs

A queerplatonic tsundere

Too many neurodivergent & queer people to count

Aroace & agender rep by an aroace & agender person

Hidden creative secrets to be found (a true ending, a song, and a tarot reading, to name a few of them)

A depiction of how the zombie apocalypse would really go in our current society

A skip function for easy replayability

Everyone involved in this game worked so hard on it, and I couldn't be more proud with the result.  Thank you to every person who was a part of this project!  Y'all are awesome.

[sagesolsticewrites]

Cake & Dragons | Austin x asexual!gn!Reader

Your boyfriend goes above and beyond to help you celebrate Ace Week <3

a/n: aaaand here’s an incredibly self-indulgent little blurb from your local greyace author! Happy Ace Week to my fellow aces, you're all valid and I love y'all! And to my allo friends, I really encourage y'all to learn about asexuality and the asexual spectrum, it's such an underrepresented identity in fandom. I'd recommend starting with AVEN, the Asexual Visibility and Education network!

Asexuality is defined as experiencing little to no sexual attraction. This is not aromanticism, which is defined as experiencing little to no romantic attraction, though some asexuals also identify as aromantic, and vice versa!

Word count: 552

Warnings: mentions of previous aphobia, Austin being a sickeningly perfect boyfriend, I think that’s it? As always, please let me know if I missed anything!

Please like/rb if you enjoyed! 🤍

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Austin had always been supportive of your asexual identity.

You remembered being absolutely terrified to come out to him, sure that as sweet as he was he’d break up with you for someone more normal, someone who could give him what you couldn’t. That had happened with previous partners— you worked up the courage to tell them that you had no interest in sex at all, and they either broke up with you on the spot, or made it their mission to “fix” you.

He was confused at first, but once you’d explained it to him — you didn’t experience sexual attraction at all, and you had absolutely zero interest in sex — he soothed your fears immediately.

“Thank you for telling me, sweetheart,” he had said, his thumbs rubbing soothing circles on the backs of your hands, “You know that I love you, and this doesn’t change anything about that.”

You had established boundaries, and he was diligent in respecting them and making you promise to tell him if he ever did anything that crossed a line or made you uncomfortable.

So yeah, he was pretty perfect. But when you had offhandedly mentioned a couple weeks ago that Ace Week was coming up, you hadn’t expected… this.

Austin had been suspiciously absent from bed when you’d woken up, and you had crept out to the kitchen, following the telltale sounds of Austin surely creating some sort of chaos, to find an array of black, white, grey, and purple balloons decorating the kitchen, along with a bouquet of flowers in the same colors, and your boyfriend messily, painstakingly frosting a cake in the same colors: the colors of the ace flag.

“Um… Aus?” you laugh, taking in the scene before you.

He spins around, a bright grin on his face. 

“Hey, sweetheart!” He beams, stepping forward to press a sweet kiss to your cheek, keeping his frosting-covered hands carefully away from you. 

“What’s all this?” you grin, leaning over to take in the cake, the different colored frostings messily fading into each other.

“It’s Ace Week, isn’t it?” He replies, “You’re always doing things to celebrate me, I wanted to do something to help you celebrate for a change.” He looks around, seeming to finally take in just how much is going on in your little kitchen. “I, uh… might have gone a little overboard,” he laughs sheepishly.

Your heart melts at the earnestness in his eyes, and you pull him in for a kiss. 

“I love it,” you assure him as you pull away, beaming. “I love you.”

“I love you, too. Now c’mere,” he says, leading you over to the living room, “I’ve got more stuff for you.”

“More?!”

Austin indeed showers you with gifts the whole day, despite you sweetly reminding him that he has “a whole week to do this, you don’t have to do all this today!”, and you fall asleep that night with a new stack of books on your bedside table (“Did you know how many books there are with ace characters now?” Austin had said in wonder when he presented them to you, “I picked out ones I thought you’d like, but I’ve got a whole list if you want to look at it.”), cuddling a purple stuffed dragon (“You said dragons are an ace thing right?” he had asked almost nervously, “I just saw it yesterday and thought of you.”), heart full to bursting with the knowledge that Austin was willing to do all of this just to make sure you knew how much he loved and supported you.

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[galaxyzone]

I would like to address the Ryan hate that I've been seeing, because it's really been rubbing me the wrong way.

When I first started playing The Quarry, Ryan gave me strong autistic vibes pretty much right away, and I immediately loved it. As someone who has been doing research on Autism lately because I think I might have it and I want to get officially diagnosed one day, Ryan exhibits a lot of symptoms. Difficulty with understanding sarcasm, a somewhat monotone pattern of speaking, being defensive over his interests (ie the podcast), a strict desire to follow instructions and not understanding why other people choose to break the rules, etc. And guess what? These are all things that I've seen him receive hate for. Every time I see someone hating on Ryan, it's for something that's very reflective of an autism-coded character. So to me, all of the Ryan hate feels very ableist, and I don't like it.

EDIT: Another thing I see Ryan receive hate for is saying that he's not really interested in Dylan OR Kaitlyn. To me, that line just made me think that maybe he just happens to be on the asexual and/or aromantic spectrums. But of course most other people don't stop to think about that because we live in a sex-normative and romance-normative world, so instead they just hate him for not being in love with either of them. Like y'all, just because he's not interested in either of them romantically doesn't mean he doesn't like them. He clearly likes them as friends, he's just not interested in dating either of them, and that's completely valid, because aroace people are valid.

I'm not saying he has to be your favorite, but maybe just think about how your negative opinions of him have possibly been shaped by subconscious ableism, aphobia, biphobia, or racism. Thank you❤

[artemis-de-la-lune]

also, don't y'all think it's a bit wrong to make "love is love" an umbrella slogan for the entire community because, might i remind y'all, a considerable part of that community identifies as AROMANTIC and ASEXUAL? can't it rather be "let people be who they want to be" or something like that, i mean, come on, there's a need to stop sidelining those on the aroace spectrum, already.

[dredshirtroberts]

Google: how to tell my mom i don't have very high expectations of my family handling my being trans without being offensive

Did you mean: Ain't gonna happen bub, good luck with that tho LOL

like. the hard part is i know exactly how she would react if I told her "Look, I don't really have high expectations from y'all. in fact, if you guys reach the bare minimum of decency on the subject I will be shocked." Because I will. The fact that she sometimes tries is mind boggling to me.

I just don't expect much when their reaction to people being LGBTQ+, when they don't realize they're in the presence of someone who is (or even when they do know which is worse) is a look of confused almost disgust and bafflement without trying to understand it and there is no supportive or at least caring words said about the matter. And then they clam up and don't talk about it at all, which makes education a fucking nightmare.

I just. I know what they're like. I know. I've known them my whole life, and I've seen what they think about people like me. I know they don't care or are passively hostile towards trans folks and such. They try for appearances sakes but they don't care. They don't want to know because knowing might make it real and that would fuck with their worldview and mean that there's stuff out there they don't know or understand.

Maybe i'm being uncharitable but I've got a thing with the lot of them tomorrow and I'm just about done trying to be nice about their fucking backwards-ass right-wing outlook on the world. I have to put up with so much bullshit from them because it's not- I'm alone in my views with them so there's no one to back me up when i start deciding to say "Hey can we maybe not be racist? or sexist? or transphobic? just a little? just a bit you guys." or like attempting to give a different view point that isn't Fox News Bullshit without having my facts and sources at the ready. because god forbid i go in without being prepared for a proper fucking debate when i'm outnumbered. I have to deal with their Ultra Christian takes on everything (that is relatively new, we were not like this even when we started homeschooling, it's only been in the last 10 years and has ramped up hard over the past 5 or so). I know they're going to say some passively bigoted shit about something. I know someone's going to say something about me being out now.

And i'm going to have to put on a brave face, smile through it, customer service hand-hold their way through a basic explanation when it's so much more complicated than i could ever conceive of discussing with them. And I have to hide so much other shit about my life from them because you know. Polyamory is possibly the easiest thing to explain to them and might actually be harder for them to accept than anything else. Let alone trying to get into the various Queer-theory shit that applies to me and my situation, or that my partner is non-binary, and also has a partner, or that I'm somewhere on the aromantic spectrum but not fully but not not fully? and how that all works. They won't get it. And I'm- I'm not...

I shouldn't have to be the bigger person. I shouldn't have to hand-hold them through respecting me as a person. But hey, i'll just be glad they didn't fucking forget to invite me to a family event. Maybe eventually they'll actually love me one day.

[gods-oats]

Y'all I think I'm ace

I've been pretty sure about being aromantic for a while now despite never really mentioning it. But, recently I've been coming to terms with the fact that might be asexual also. I know there isn't a checklist of criteria before you can identify as something, but I'm not sure how I fit on the spectrum. I got some thinking to do and I guess I just wanted to vent a bit.

[rainbowdoom32]

So I'm going to start identifying myself as aspec. Previously I identified as a bisexual aromantic but upon furthur consideration I might be asexual.

I'm posting about this b/c 1) it puts it out there and makes the lable feel more real and tangible

2) I know some of y'all IRL or on a personal enough basis that I feel you should know

3) A queers need more visibilty in gen

4) cause I want to talk abouy it

So Idk how to do a read more and am on mobile so if you dont want to hear about what being aspec means to me start scrolling now

So. In the aspec community (do we have a better word?) theres an overwhelming discourse about sexual and romantic repulsion. For those of you who dont know thats when the idea of sex , sexual content, sex itself, the idea of romance, romantic gestures, and/or romantic content acts as a squick for you it creates some spectrum of a revulsion in you to be confronted with one or more of these things. Its an overwhelming discourse for many reasons but the one I want to talk about is that it makes it obvious that your ace or aro if your repulsed by sex or romance. The process for discovering your aspec identity is easier in a way, specifically in a way it isnt for me.

See I dont experience sexual or romantic repulsion. I like romance stories and porn. I actively seek these things out. I'm not put off by discussions of others romantic or sexual lives (specific aspects may repulse me but in general I'm interested in these especially when coming from people I care about). So naturally as a teenager I never considered myself as aspec. i considered myself bisexual almost immediatly (there was a thing where I thought I was tricking myself into thinking I liked women to be included in the queer community. More on that later) it took two very short very middle school esque (one took place my sophmore year) relationships and an accidental internet encounter with the concept of aromantisim for me to realise that the reason this wasnt working for me was because I didnt really want it.

The more I thought of myself as aro the more things made sense. At the slumber parties as a kid I never had a crush to confess. Those two failed relationshios? Guy friends I'd gotten real close to and thought my new stronger friendship feelings must be what romantic attraction feels like. Also the real sticker, I dont get jealousy in romance at all. Like that one goes over my head. I dont understand why cheating is the worst thing someone can do in a relationship to the point that people who've been sucked into a cycle of abuse and have become convinced everything is their fault will snap when they discover they were cheated on. That is absolutly mind boggling for me.

The point of that is I never got that ew ick romance feeling. As a reult the road to discovering I was aromantic was long and and full of doubt. Doubt that went along the lines of "Maybe I just havent found the right person". Which also happens to be the exact thing my mum says to me everytime I try to explain that Im aromantic to her. Bisexuality she understands and accepts. This she doesnt. So even though I know intellectually theres no right person for me that niggling doubt remains andit haunts me.

Now im going to devolve a bit here and I know what this sounds like but im seriously not trying to be offensive just explain something

See I read a fanfic recently. I dont remeber how I found it but it was a Stony fic and the story and the set up were very romantic cliche. Basically Steve was Tony's booty call it evolves to friends with benefits Steve falls in love. Textbook stuff. But see theres a wrench because the author identifies as aromantic is with the definition we have aromantic. They write their identity onto Tony. Thats something we do in fanfic and in writing. But the problem I ran into is this: the author identifies as aromantic because they experience romantic repulsion(yes they told me this) so in the fic Tony is in love with Steve but experiences romantic repulsion. The idea of romance of romantic commitment makes him anxious and sick. This is how the author feels FWB allows them to experience intimacy without triggering their repulsion. Identifying as atomantic makes them feel not broken. This so good right? This is why we have labels

Except. When I read this part of the story it hurt me. Directly. See Tong Stark has Daddy Issues. Ehen the author wrote about Tony's romantic repulsion narritevly they tied it into Tony's not nice childhood. I dont know specifically why it wasnt part of thwir explanation when I told them their story hurt me. I didnt ask. But this narritive decision made what was essentially was an author expressing their experience as an aromantic in a story feel like a personal attack against my aromantic identity.

See when I read that what I read was "Tony Stark cant commit to an actual relationship with Steve Rogers because Howard Starks Grade A parenting fucked up his ability to recieve expressions of love and his ability to commit. Tony Stark is in romantic love with Steve Rogers but his childhood trauma prevents him from expresing it in the traditional manner this is what being aromantic is"

That hurt. Because it hit that little doubt in my head about not having met the "right person" and mixed it up with some childhood trauma made you a broken person. It also hit me while I felt safe. Romance stories are my escapism. Their like an extra element of fantasy in a story for me. I specifically seek out romantic stories as a comforting mechanism. Fanfics in particular because of their inclusivity. I was in my safe space, and I was whammed in a sore spot.

The problem is though the author has a right to that story and that label and to express themselves. We usually draw the line at self expression where it hurts other people but thats not what happened here. What happened here was definitial confusion. The author and I were using "aromantic" to describe two different but similar romantic orientations. In doing so we hurt each other ironically in the same way. We both said to each other "Your identity is wrong and toxic you hurt people and yourself by expressing it the way you do". (I left a comment saying how her story affected me)

When I say I'm aromantic I mean I experience no romantic feelings. None nada zilch. The idea that I might one day experience a type of romantic feeling is an aggression against me. The same way the idea that gay people can choose to be straight is an aggression against being gay.

But I can't invalidate someone else to protect myself. What do I do? I dont want to hurt myself and I dont want to hurt other people? Idk

And now to why I no longer identify as bisexual.

I'm a virgin. Because most peoples first time is with someone their in a romantic relationship with. And we'll I dont do that. Im also a socially anxious person. I have no idea how to instogate a sexual encounter and honeslty I wouldnt feel comftorable dping it with someone I couldnt trust or alternatively someone I'm friends with and would have to continue being juat friends with in post we had sex awkwardness. So ive never had an opportunity to have sex.

But I also havent sought them out. And I dont feel particularly driven to. These are reasons to think your asexual but I'm sure it's also the experience of many introverted and secually awkawrd people. And it's not like I couldnt have sex at some future point. Even now if an opportunity arose I might say yes, of only to confirm my asexuality.

The thing that has made me actually consider if I'm ace tho is a weird quirk of mine. I cant get off to prom videos. I use lit erotica. Why? Cause the idea that those are real live people puts me off. Porn stars and amateur porn makers know people get off watching their videos. Theyre okay with that. But I'm not. At all. Thats a big ol nope for me.

See I'm a ciswoman. Which means I have a clitoris. An organ whose only purpose is to provide pleasure. As everyone knows reciving pleasure via the clit requires no participation by a second person. The fact that my clitiros functions as intended and that I use it isnt sexual attraction.

Thats a new idea for me. But it's true isnt it? Sexual attraction is about other people. And sure I can appreciate other people's hotness. But just because I think a horse is pretty doesnt mean I want to fuck it. Remeber that thing about thinking I was faking bisexuality?? I was right. I wasnt sexually attracted to women. But what I hadnt bothered to consider because of heteronormativity was that I wasnt sexually attracted to men either.

Other fun fact in case you might be an ace person who's read this far (why? Also hi Katie and possibly Sadie but definelty Nishat. No im not implying any of you are ace) I dont have sex dreams. But I do have dreams in which I masturbate. So stick that jn your pipe and smoke it.

Anyways these are all experinces that I have that I feel neccessry to share to make it so the repulsion story isnt the only one out there. And also to start a discourse about how experiencing and not experiencing repulsion affect aspec experience. Thanks for reading!

[galaxa-13]

Fuckyeahasexual reblogged your thing of experiences before figuring out you’re asexual and I came to say

BRO YOU CALLED ME THE FUCK OUT

That is all, hope you have a great week

Ah-haaaa, so that was the big blogger that made my post blow up from around 100 notes to nearly ten times that in a day.

It's funny, I made the post in question to literally just be about myself, hoping that others might relate and feel some peace that they aren't alone. I've done a lot of thinking about it over the years of realizing that the asexual label fit me and how I feel about that, but I wanted to share my incredibly confusing experience before figuring it out. Now I get so many notifications similar to this message.

Y'all, no need to be scared about being felt or seen. I'm not reading your diaries or your brains. We all just live in a society that told us to expect something that then never happened to us, without ever acknowledging that such an outcome was even possible. So we all floundered like chickens with our heads cut off wondering why.

As my post illustrated, I am only asexual and not aromantic, but a lot of aromantic people also vibed with the post. The experience is different, but also similar. I can't imagine how hard it is for those that are both aromantic and asexual to feel like anyone can understand them. So that's why those of us on either spectrum have to speak up about our own experiences, so that maybe one day kids won't grow up wondering if they are broken, or anxious about when the fabled desire for sex or romance will grace them with its presence.

[0aurelion-sol0]

Go on Reddit, YouTube or any other website people want Will to be Ace or Aro for no real reasons than the fact they don't want him to be gay. They don't use any argument from canon to establish that he is ace or aro or both.

They always use this argument to dismiss any claims that he is gay because they clearly think for whatever reasons that being ace or aro is being different than being queer without realising that:

There is a fucking A in the LGBT community letters which means asexual. It's also a way to shut down these communities for daring to explore LGBT+ couples on screen, their lives and more. Out of which they are disgusted. They are not doing this for Aro & Ace representation, they are doing this for erasure.

They are fetishizing the Aro, Ace or both communites and the communities they are using it against because they are afraid that we might dare have a sympathetic outlook on queer couples.

Now in terms of "physical", since I don't like talking about this subject because it becomes a literal war of opinions and you have 10 assholes who comes to treat you of pedophile for daring to develop on the sexual life of teenagers (have y'all watched Euphoria?) but since I did not make it clear, I was referring to actions that may lead into something "more" physically like sexual "activities". Will in season 3 has at times shown to be more into Mike than just for the sake of the romantic aspect of the relationship. And it's normal, he's a teenager, they are growing and changing so certain things and signs starts to appear with that such as certain looks, touches that become more sensual. And it's normal, it's not something big.

I mean we have Mike and Eleven having cringy making out sequences which are to me far more disgusting.

So far there hasn't been hints to me that Will could be considered Aro or Ace. Aro is also a spectrum but there is enough evidence of Will being into Mike romantically, Asexual is more ambiguous considering it's also a spectrum since Will could be Greysexual or Demisexual.

As I said and as you said, Ace people are in a spectrum just like other sexual identities and therefore they all experience it differently even if some are similar.

As I said, things are in a spectrum so if he is something or not, he's ultimately (or at least hopefully if the Duffers do it right) going to have his own queer identity that while sharing similiraties with others, it will still be unique.

If you do have concrete/canon elements that may show me that Will is Aro/Ace or both than go for it, I'd love to be convinced. MY MIND CAN CHANGE! I'm not a wall but so far nothing has shown me that Will is any of that, that can change in the future.

I'm probably Aromantic myself since I have no interest in romantic relationships whatsoever right now (and I haven't shown any for a long time.) so it's not me who is going to catch a phobia or even an internalized one while we are 4 seasons into this.

But either way...

He will still be queer/LGBT so the arc with minor or major differences will still be the same since it is a path to acceptance that he needs.

I just want things to be treated in the right way, not in headcanon, not in overprojection over the characters, not in erasure, not in fetishization and certainly not in making queer communities fight over each other.

I already have bigots to deal with, I don't want people who are in the same community as me to be on an opposite side that I don't want them to be in.

some days i think mike is bi and then the other days i think mike is gay

LIKE I CAN'T CHOOSEEE